Wednesday, August 23, 2006


saying goodbye to my forties.......

One always looks forward to the single day of the year when it's time to bring out the cake loaded with candles, in order to celebrate the passing of another year. We always feel a little bit more taller, a little bit wiser, and a little bit more older, and with good reason........ we are!

As a child, the day never comes fast enough, and it seems like an eternity before you can claim the day as yours. It's almost as bad as waiting for Christmas. You know the presents are in hiding, the preparations readied, and the treats already baked or ordered, but the waiting part of the equation drives you into high anticipation. That is until you get to my age. At this point, you do all you can to recall the days, months, and years.... to bring back some semblance of youth and agility that were captured and taken prisoner to the age-Gods. Whether you like it or not, the process is non-negotiable. In order to get here, you must surrender your youth. Not that this is a bad thing to do, as the wisdom you gain is a very big part of the payoff in your favor.

This year I say goodbye to my forties. I turned 49 last Sunday, and I have exactly 362 days left till I hit the half century mark in my life. To say it's been a wild crazy ride would be a slight exaggeration, as the roller coaster knows no bounds to the bends and turns of the track. Whether it's been a fair one or otherwise, it's a ride I strapped into once I left my mother's womb..... and it's been a lot of fun no matter the consequences I've stumbled upon. I'm not wealthy, but I am very rich in other areas. These were always the sustainable factors that kept me from doing things that could have put me into far deeper trouble than I ever bargained for. A good set of standards and morals, a wonderful, loving family, and great friends from all over the globe have been my survival technique..... even though it has taken me this long to realize the secret of my wealth. Perhaps I knew it all along, but for some reason, was never able to identify the actual recipe. What matters is that I know this now.

So being 49 is not a bad thing at all. There are some days I still feel like I'm the 20 year old carefree girl, and some days I feel 80 (especially after a long day on my feet). It really doesn't matter, as it all balances out at the end of the day. I'm only too glad hubby didn't decide to order a cake with all the candles, as it would have resembled the burning of Atlanta all over again. We couldn't have that now, could we?

As for my little get-away to the Smokies...... I had the best time! Nothing greater than a trip to the mountains, family singing Happy Birthday (twice), and lots of cool presents to open. If this is any indication of how the year will go, then bring it on!

16 Comments:

Blogger X said...

Hell, I'm 25 and somedays I feel 80! I think it's normal :) Things get better with age and think of 50 as a bottle of wine...yuo'll be rich and flavourful and better than you were when you were bottled. Um, yes. I think I need some wine now :P

That cake is so intricate and pretty! I would want to keep it and never have a piece!

4:58 PM  
Blogger Saur♥Kraut said...

You're close to the big 5-0, huh? As you recall, I just buried my 30s. :P Love the cake! One of my friends is a fantastic chef who does wonders with cakes. He used to cook for the Hiltons, Oprah, etc.

5:01 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Welcome back, Ellen! I am not far behind you age wise but wish I had half your energy!

I'm so glad you had a good time in the mountains celebrating your day! That cake sure looks beautiful, I agree with Outinleft, I would not want to cut into it!

7:19 PM  
Blogger Skye said...

Glad your back. Your only 362 days away from joining "the club" it only gets Better from here. trust me on this one! :)

10:00 PM  
Blogger Ellen said...

K.~
That will be my new mantra:
Be the wine, not the egg.

I love this cake as well. It fits me to a tee as it is full of colorful flowers, and had absolutely no calories. I sort of took it off the net, and forwent the tradition of cake and ice cream this year. At my age, it gets harder and harder to take those calories off. LOL!

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saur~
It's still hard to believe that the years flew by so fast. It just doesn't seem possible.

I have great admiration for bakers and their creations. I used to work with a girl who had attended Johnson & Wales Culinary School, and was a wiz in her field. One year she made a Christmas cookie in the shape of my house, and I've never had the heart to eat it.
Your friend has chosen an artful field that take a lot of talent, patience and love.

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barbara~
Thanks, it's nice to be back in the swing of things. I had to cut my vacation short as I have two weddings this weekend to prep for. Time and age wait for no one, especially if I have a couple of brides depending on me.

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skye~
Oh, there is a "club"? Cool! This whole 50 thing just keeps getting better and better. I only hope my feet and legs can keep up with it.
Thanks again for your lovely card, and you will soon be getting a mountain picture in the mail!

11:22 PM  
Blogger Kelly said...

Live each day to the fullest. Birthdays have always been a major deal in my family. I will be in my 50's and still spoiled by my family.

11:35 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Ellen;


A few short words of wisdom about turning 50. It's a piece of cake!!!

Enjoy whats left of the 40's. They were good for me as I know they have been for you. Funny though, you start to look at things with less drama. Little stuff doesn't matter anymore. Now you know why Gram pa didn't worry if his fly wasn't zipped all the time. Sort of a 'don't give a shit attitude."

And then the letter from AARP arrives in the mail! It felt like a flock of vultures flying over the mailbox waiting for their prey.

Anyway, enjoy yourself. Its just a number.

Love Karl

12:29 AM  
Blogger Snaggle Tooth said...

Glad ya had a good time, n don't mind the years adding on, either! Age is just a number, after all-

Now if ya couldn't learn more as ya go - that would be a tragedy!

My sisters like to call n sing over the phone the normal Patty n Betty Hill B-day tune "Happy Birthday to you...ect...May the dear Lord bless you...ect...How old are you now...ect..." Most people sing.
I do a different bluesy version of the tune, with guitar or drums (usually over the phone for them) Always cheers me up too!

Earning more years is a good thing...

3:19 AM  
Blogger Rainbow dreams said...

Am pleased you had a good time - what a wonderful cake.
Thank God for the things money can't buy - and here's to more fun on that rollercoaster :-)

4:13 PM  
Blogger john said...

they say that the 5o's is the new 30's . you can tell then that you are just entering middle age . to some , it gives them an excuse to do 'things' that can be attributed to mid life crisis. it's kinda fun really .

7:44 PM  
Blogger wes said...

Happy belated b-day! :)

May the next 49 be as good as the first 49. :) Glad your trip was good, everyone needs a break once and awhile from the daily life. :)

11:08 PM  
Blogger Michael K. Althouse said...

Happy Birthday Ellen!

I'm not that far behind you... coming up on 44 this year, and it's the best time of my life! I too am weathly in so many areas that I can't help but be grateful. And you, my friend, are simply inspirational!

BTW: I'm writing tonight from Metarie, La

~Mike

1:29 AM  
Blogger Skye said...

Hi! So how goes it almost a week now, any differences?Maria and I recieved the p.c. today it was exactly the kind I would have purchased . Thank you very much. :))

2:12 AM  
Blogger awareness said...

Hi Ellen!

I'm a few days away from turning 46, and despite the fact that turning 40 seemed odd and shocking, I am loving this age. Well, except for the droopiness and the need to don the hair colouring gloves more often............. oh, and the feeling I get when I have had too much fun the night before. Somewhere along the line pulling an all-nighter now seems like such a daunting prospect.

I feel like I've found myself again after years of having the other roles in my life take precedence.

Hope the weddings went well this weekend.

9:56 PM  
Blogger Ellen said...

myutopia~
Birthdays have also been a big part of our celebrations in our family as well. Nothing better than the guest of honor having a day filled with all kinds of wishes fulfilled.... especially the "no work" part!

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karl~
I have already gotten to the "I don't care" part of my life in many ways. It sure cuts down on the misery when it comes to the small stuff. And by the way, AARP has already been contacting me. I used to laugh when Charles got his letters, now he's laughing at me.
Talk about fair play....

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snaggle~
How nice of you all to call each other on your birthdays with songs. It's the next best thing to being there.
I agree with you about adding on the years... it is truly a good thing. It's this year that counted so well for me as I was able to surpass my own mothers age. She was only 48 when she died... just weeks away from her 49th birthday.

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rainbow dreams~
I have a feeling that the best is still to come.... that's the best part of roller-coaster rides, isn't it?

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john~
It's funny that you should mention that because it was a subject brought up at the mini party we had. My sister-in-law kept saying that I was 29 this year, while her husband said that he was celebrating his 26th anniversary of his 29th birthday. We all don't look a day over 39 here anyway. It must be the good lives we lead!

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wes~
How nice of you to wish me 49 more! Some days I truly do feel like I've lived them all in one day though...especially after this weekend of weddings. I will plan to take a few more days off here and there so that I don't lose them for this year.

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mike~
Thanks for the kind words.... and I'm so thrilled that you are able to get over to Louisiana to see family. How is it over there?
As for being in the 40's.... you are so right, it is the best time to be past the BS of our youth, and on to brighter horizons of wisdom.

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skye~
Woohoo for the countdown... but the weeks are going to fly from here, aren't they? That's the only sad part. I had a dream about my son last night when he was still little, and woke up to realize that he is 20 and beyond the point of me holding his hand to cross the street. That is my only regret.... his growing up too fast.
Glad to see your picture arrived!

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awareness~

I tell people that only my hairdresser knows for sure... except when I wait too long to bring on the Nutresse Garnier to color the dowdiness of the grey.
I'm far too young to go all grey at this point!
So we are only 3 years apart? I had a feeling we were close in age!
Funny that you should mention the role of finding yourself... I did the exact same thing at your age, and am loving the "awareness" of it!

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TO ALL~

So sorry it took so long to respond to your wonderful comments. It was a return from vacation hell week with two weddings to prep for... as well as a multitude of last minute caterings that people needed for the next day. Hopefully things will even out again, and I will be a much regular blogger than I have been this past week.
Take care, y'all.... new post coming soon!

8:54 AM  
Blogger Neo said...

Ellen - Sorry it took me so long to comment, but ya know I love ya! Glad you had fun. You deserve it.

Peace & Hugs,

- Neo

8:27 PM  

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