tagged by Jin on 8 points to the perfect lover....

Hmmmm..... let's see. When you get to be my age, you tend to worry less about the romance stuff then you do about keeping the mortgage and college tuition payments in on time. That's not to say that romance dies, just that the mountain of life shifts, and you fall into a "comfortable" rather than a "lust" situation. That said, my points are drastically different than when I was in my 20's.

my 40's mind:

1) Being home and cooking a great meal together (he's a chef, I'm a caterer... enough said)

2) Likes to go shopping as much as I do (not a problem with the hubby)

3) Has no problem with getting his hands dirty doing yard work, painting, remodeling, etc.
(again, not a problem in our household)

4) Getting flowers on all the important days, and not so important ones (hubby gets A+)

5) Knows when he is getting good advise, and knows how to smooth me down to see his.

6) Ending the day by sitting on the back porch and chewing the fat or discussing politics.
(nothing like sitting in the garden to solve the world's problems after a busy day)

7) Setting some free time away to sit at Starbuck's and read the Sunday paper.
(we're big fans, and get our Sunday paper on Saturday. Added benefit is that we take their
used coffee grounds for fertilizer in the gardens)

8) Knowing when it's ok to have quiet moments and space without each other.

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my 20's mind:

1) Great personality

2) Humorous... but not in a dorky clown sort of way

3) A "people" person

4) intelligent

5) Able to put up with my silly quirks

6) Someone who saw the same picket fence house I did

7) Handy, and able to teach me how to be more handy

8) George Clooney handsome


Needless to say, I'm at the age where comfortable is romantic. There are so many ways to keep romance going, and everyone has their methods. What counts is that both parties develop compromise as it's a situation that will evolve over time, and the relationship will shift here and there to prove it's existence. It's not about changing the other person to fit what you want, it's about acceptance of them, and your ability on how you handle that.

Ok.... enough said on that! I'm about the last person you'd ever want lovelorn advise on.

Now, according to Jin's tag, I must tag 8 other people to do this.... but I'm going to leave it all up to you. Feel free to play along... even if you want to leave it in my comment area.

Y'all have a great day!